Men who become lazy after a few dates?
Question from ! ! ! Bekah SUPREMETEAM t/y Pete ♞
! ! ! Bekah SUPREMETEAM t/y Pete ♞ says: Jul 11, 2011 4:12pm
Seriously, I need to know why after the 2nd or 3rd date, if I kiss a dude, suddenly he thinks that the next date should be to just chill at my house or his house. Please, someone explain to me how this constitutes as a date? Am I wasting my time by even saying NO and expecting to go out and do an activity? Is this sort of attitude an indicator for something that I'm not understanding? Honestly, ladies and gents, WTF?
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Mack R says: Jul 11, 2011 5:11pm
ok because some men and women get tired of wasting money on things that are not going to work out. It is a maturity issues as well. Some men and women that have been dating and not just in a relationship for a while tend to want to find out if you have any association to there past. If sex was a problem, a key indicator was sex was a problem in their last relationship, so sex may tend to be their focus. It isnt nothing wrong with them, but it isn't nothing wrong with you for not going all the way as well. It is simple as a choice. Some may want to hear your answer on some views. Some may already know that they don't want a relationship, but want to have sex with you. Their is nothing wrong with that side of things as well. The problem with those first three dates is that they are so judgmental. Honestly, I rather just date personally someone that's on the same page at the same time. If sex comes up, than its something we want to do. Hang out at the house, something we want to do. Go out to the club, its something we want to do. Overall, it is a choice and you have every right to say "No" and walk away.
However, this is a rule of thumb. Whether they with you or not, and gender has nothing to do with it, it's always someone in the background taking care of those needs until you ready for someone else to take over. Also, if you not fortunate to have a booty call than it is still nothing wrong with you. Some people feel that you are in a relationship the second that a date happens and that you are under their jurisdiction. If someone wants to take a date as a relationship than it may be some control and jealousy issues there. It is always your choice as a individual to move on with someone, but do not cater any more to a person that is geared toward a relationship, especially if you already know at that time, "You are not ready for a relationship." Its ok to hang out with someone, but if you have to keep repeating yourself about how you want to stand in a friendship/relationship or whatever for that matter, than this person may be too ignorant to know when to leave you alone.
"Your prejudice from a bad relationship should not be fuel to enter into a new relationship, the results of such motive and intent will always equal failure" by MTRJ
